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Saturday, 31 October 2009
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Currently
Facing Future
Somewhere Over the Rainbow
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It's been a while, but I have many excuses. I will offer a few of them to you, and then get on with the blog:
(1) Work has been busy -- I do most of the agreements that have to do with our browser, blogging site, RSS reader, 3D software, GPS, music and content that isn't related to our video site, as well as a few things that are in development. Sometimes it's not so busy, but if a few things get busy at the same time, or if one gets very busy, it can get kind of hairy. Especially if the next two points are true.
(2) I've been sick. This is Day 20 of the Illness I'm Stubbornly Insisting Isn't Swine Flu. I was sick for a week before leaving for Hawaii, I was sick while I was there, and I've been sick since getting back Tuesday morning. This means that I have been missing work or working from home a lot, and when I'm at work, I'm working pretty hard at not coughing on people.
(3) I was on vacation. This is my favorite excuse, because it's the funnest one. Superman and I went to Hawaii for nine days, which meant that we were scrambling to get things done in advance, scrambling to get caught up afterwards, and scrambling to get some work done while we were there. In between all the scrambling, however, it was awesome. Vacation, by definition, means awesome. Look it up. I love vacation.
So those were my main excuses. (Also, I'm lazy.)
On to the blog.
First, despite my whining about being busy and being sick, I have to say that I still love my job and I still love my company. It's been a year and a half, and the place still blows me away. They really care about the employees, and they really try to do the right thing for us. In return, the employees really love the company, and we try to do good work. Everyone wins.
The Friday before Superman and I left on vacation, we went to the weekly company-wide happy hour. There were rumors that someone famous was coming, and when those rumors are going around, it means either (a) that someone famous is coming, or (b) they're going to do something else that is equally cool. So we showed up, and the special guest was a cash bonus. Literally cash, in an envelope, the way Mom and Dad used to give it to you.Just in time for vacation. I ran to the bank to put it away, because I'm not used to having that much cash. It was awesome of the company to do that, but what I liked most about it was watching them do the announcement. The top management had staged this whole super-boring presentation to make the announcement more exciting, and they were all so giddy once it happened, handing out cash to everyone around them. They were as happy as kindergartners at Christmas, except that they were getting their thrills from giving away millions of dollars in cash. They were as adorable as billionaires can be, which is surprisingly adorable.
So then we went to Hawaii (Kona).This was the resort where we stayed:
It was nice. Nicer than the places I usually stay, when the choice is left up to me, but Superman has fancier hotel tastes than I do, and it's actually kind of a secret relief -- I can't convince myself to choose nice places, but if someone I am with insists on it, I can deal with the extra expense, because someone else is "responsible" for incurring it, and I enjoy the extra amenities.
There were two main reasons for going to Hawaii:
(1) It was right around our anniversary. (Do you know how long it's been since I've liked someone long enough to say "Happy Anniversary" to them? It's more impressive than it should be, but I'm still kind of proud.)
Happy anniversary to us :)
(2) Diving -- Hawaii is the closest warm water diving, and I was getting pretty dive-starved. And Superman needed to get certified.
This is what the dive boat looked like from the water:
I didn't bother taking my big camera on this trip, and only took the small camera on three out of eight dives. My mistake. On one of the camera-free dives, we crossed paths with a pod of about 100 dolphins -- in over 200 dives, this was the first time I ever was lucky enough to be underwater with dolphins. On one of the other camera-free dives, it was nighttime, and we hung out with about ten manta rays (some of them over fifteen feet across, and weighing about one ton each) as they fed on the plankton attracted by our lights. They came close enough that we had to duck (Superman got hit on the head by one), and resist getting swept up in the vortex they created in passing. Two of the best dives I've ever been on, and I don't have a single picture to remember them by. (That may have been one of the most Asian sentiments I've ever expressed.)
I did take a bunch of pictures of Superman, much like anxious, proud parents take pictures of their children's first steps. One example:
I also took a few pictures of the stuff we saw, other than the unphotographed dolphins and mantas (I'm still annoyed at myself about these two missed photo ops, although I have to admit that I probably enjoyed the experiences more, and actually experienced them more, because I wasn't fumbling with a camera).
The water generally pretty clear, so visibility was quite good, even from the bottom.
There were some beautiful swim-throughs. For some reason, I feel more peaceful while doing a swim-through than almost any other time, above or below water.
This guy was about as long as the palm of my hand, and very well camouflaged.
We saw two octopi on a dive, both hiding -- they don't really come out during the day.
Superman had a very lucky first dive trip -- eight dives, and he got to see most of the "must-sees," including this white-tipped reef shark.
And a turtle.
And eels.
He didn't really pay much attention to one of my main fascinations, nudibranchs (but in all fairness, most new divers are more interested in a five foot shark than a slug that is shorter than your finger):
This guy was about an inch long.
This guy was only about as long as my fingernail.
These guys were five or six feet long -- there really is no way to look good in dive gear...
We had four dive days, and spent the rest of the time loafing around the resort. They made an amazingly good ginger ale from scratch (which we tried to replicate today), which I drank liters of (I love ginger ale, this stuff was especially good, the sun was hot, and I was sick, so I avoided alcohol) while reading on the Kindle that my sister gave to me for my birthday (on a side note, Kindle is a pretty awesome combination of two obsessions -- books and gadgets -- love it). Spent time in the steam room and lounging by the pool. It was probably the laziest vacation (other than the diving and sporadic work) that I've had in ages.
Surfer with a paddle behind our hotel
Good news is that Superman liked diving and was pretty good at it -- he is very fit and very conscious when learning new things, so he is picking it up quickly. He liked it enough that he suggested doing a big dive trip either over Christmas or in February, when we're thinking of doing a trip somewhere with Kanga and Roo, depending on whether Kanga and Roo want to go diving. (Kanga? What do you think?) For our next dive trip, we're thinking Palau, Fiji, Komodo, or Borneo. For our next land-based trip, we're interested in India or Africa. Did I mention that I love vacation?
We got back on Tuesday and dove straight back into work. I was sick all week, so it was a bit of a struggle to go back to work (instead of the pool) and maintain focus through the coughing. I'm staying in all weekend in an attempt to force a recovery. I bought candy on the off-chance that anyone would come trick-or treating, but am just eating it myself, so I hope no one comes.
Random ghost in a Hawaiian plaza -- Happy Halloween!
In other news, I was flu-sick and seasick for the past few weeks, so I just couldn't stomach (haha) the idea of adding on the nausea from my meds, so I went off of them, for now. As soon as I get my health back, I'll start taking them again, and just hope that the vacation high tides me over till then. I was considering not going back on them, but Superman urged caution, and says I should take them for a while longer. If he can handle the whining and complaining, I suppose I can handle the nausea and dizziness.
I'd better be feeling better by Monday. I've got lots of work to do, and (perhaps just as importantly) one of the cafes at work is doing Thomas Keller (of French Laundry and Per Se fame) recipes all week. I missed lobster and prime rib in our building cafe yesterday because I was sick. Superman and I made up for it a bit by going to the local Asian store today and buying three freshly steamed lobsters. Yum.
I don't think the trick-or-treaters are coming, and I'm pretending that Starburst and sitting still help to reduce coughing, so I'm going to retire to my bed to eat their candy and read my Kindle. Nobody parties like I party.
Tuesday, 29 September 2009
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Currently
Single Ladies
By Beyonce
see relatedlittle things
They say that it's the little things in life that make all the difference.
In this case, the little things are pills. Anti-depressants work, and I can never decide if that's depressing or not. On one hand, it means that I can basically wave a magic wand (well, it takes a few weeks of waving before anything happens), and at least some of my troubles go away. On the other hand, it also means that there is some part of my brain (and a large part of my life) that is completely out of my control -- I find it somewhat insulting that when this part of my brain kicks in, there is absolutely nothing I can do on my own to fix it, but if I take these pills and sit around and wait, it flips a switch that I can't get to on my own. I really hate that. And then there are the side effects. Nothing like having unbearable depression lift so that nearly unbearable nausea and insomnia can take over, instead.
In any case, at least it's making a difference.
Superman has been amazing. He put up with the random rage and despair before, and he puts up with the nausea and whining now. He noticed that I'm happier when I have friends and plans, so he (who is not the planning type) suggests movies, dinners, and other activities with people, takes extra time to spend with me alone, and booked a trip to Hawaii so that I can finally get him diving. He realized that I feel sicker on the weekends because we aren't at work, so I'm not eating as regularly, so he goes and gets groceries and makes me breakfast.
My perspective has improved enough that I'm laughing at inappropriate things again -- we spent a good 20 minutes the other night looking through the San Jose phone book for unfortunate names. Seriously, if your last name is Buttz, why would you name your son Richard?
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Roo was in town a few weeks ago, and it was good to see him and really catch up -- we had a few looong conversations, and really dissected what we're trying to get out of our lives, and what we see in our futures. One thing that kept coming up was the topic of children. I'm not really a "kid person." I don't enjoy kids very much, unless it's in small doses, the children are well-behaved, and I'm closely related to them. I make a better aunt than I would a parent, and I recognize that. I'm better off if I don't have kids, and kids are better off not having me as a parent. Most people do end up having kids, though, and Roo will be one of them. We had a really lengthy discussion about children, in which Roo tried to convince me that maybe I should have kids, and I think it's the first time I've really tried to articulate all at one time my reasoning for not wanting children. It didn't change my mind at all, but it gave me more clarity about why I feel the way I feel. It was useful just to organize my thoughts and opinions and say them all together. I'll have to write it all out here soon.
Roo happened to be in town for Superman's birthday, so he came out for drinks and then to a fancy birthday dinner at Cyrus -- it was the best meal I've had in the U.S., better than Jean-Georges or Le Bernardin in New York, Manresa or Michael Mina in the Bay Area.
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Work is going well. We had a department off-site to go to Monterey for three days last week, and the legal teams from our New York and DC offices flew in, as well. It was everything you'd expect a legal department event to be -- a lot of alcohol and food, some bleary-eyed seminars and presentations, and more alcohol and food. Given the company we work for, there was also schwag (gym bags, water bottles, Rubik's cubes, and other little toys), a Rock Band competition, a pie-eating contest, lots of dancing, glow necklaces, s'mores, bonfires, an 80's cover band, and people getting thrown in the pool of the private suite the head of the department was staying in. It was actually a ton of fun, which was surprising -- I don't really expect official work events to be fun, but it was awesome.
One of the things that I thought about while on the retreat was the fact that there are a significant number of people in the company (and in my department) who are rich enough that they really don't need to work anymore (lucky pre-IPO bastards). They stay, anyways, because they like it here, and I find it really comforting -- money is basically meaningless to them at this point, but they still come to work every day because they like the people they work with, the work they do, and the company they work for.
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After the off-site was over, Superman and I slept in (we managed to do some room-swapping and ended up sharing a room at the off-site), then went to the Monterey Aquarium. We spent a few hours there, and I told him things about fish that he didn't know, and it was just a perfect date -- something different than we usually do, farther away than we usually go, and with the added bonus of being during a work day, so it felt like stolen time. It got me really psyched for our trip to Hawaii, which is less than three weeks away. Hawaii will be an anniversary trip -- our one year is in less than a month. Crazy, how time has flown by.
2FX asked me how we were doing, and I said we're doing well, in part because Superman understands me and is good at managing me. I've come to believe that a good relationship involves good management -- each person needs to learn the other's weaknesses and figure out how to manage them so that they aren't a problem, but do so in a way that the other person doesn't feel like they are being managed. Superman is good at that. I'm not an easy person to manage.
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This song has been stuck in my head ever since I watched the latest episode of Glee (which is the only one that has lived up to the pilot). The scene with the football team? Classic.
Wednesday, 02 September 2009
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Currently
The Craft of the Cocktail: Everything You Need to Know to Be a Master Bartender, with 500 Recipes
By Dale DeGroff
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"Too much work, too little time" isn't something that I've experienced often. Until last year, the only reason it ever happened was because I procrastinated too much and left a lot of work to do in very little time (examples that come to mind include researching, writing, and editing my senior thesis in three weeks, and studying for the bar exam in three weeks). I've learned over time how to cram a lot of work into a small amount of time, and assume that work will fill up whatever space and time you give it, and consequently I have always given it as little space and time as possible, under the assumption that I would be able to scrape something together once it was absolutely necessary, after the procrastination generated enough self-inflicted stress.
Last year, around this time, I experienced a different and more troubling source of stress -- for the first time, I actually had absolutely no idea what I was doing, and felt like the work was accumulating faster than I could learn how to do it. I guess it was more like "too much work, too little understanding." It felt like even if I had tons of extra time, that I still couldn't be sure that I could actually figure out how to do the work. They had warned us at orientation that working here is like that -- the beginning is like trying to drink from a fire hose -- but I didn't really believe them, since I've never experienced that kind of overload before. It was pretty demoralizing and terrifying. But then after a few months, I got the hang of it enough that I could keep up and eventually got ahead of it again. For a while.
Now, however, I'm having another first. The work has gotten more complicated as I've been ramped up to more complex products and deals, so I'm mentally running a bit again to keep up with it, and there's also suddenly a ton of it, so the sheer volume has become a bit daunting. It's a scary combination, to have "too much work, too little understanding, and too little time" all at once.
(And rather unusually, I had hard deadlines this week -- a press event and a TV spot -- with lots of separate moving pieces to get in place by very specific times, all of which was complicated by an 11th hour email outage at a company that is even more email-dependent than most.)
Every time I think I've gotten the hang of my work, I get more, or it gets more complicated, and I have to start running again to stay ahead of some new kind of tidal wave. I suppose the upside is that it will be a while before things get routine and boring. Still, I wouldn't mind a little less panic for now. Two launches down, three to go, with a dozen other deals to fit into all the "spare time," somehow.
Ack.
Friday, 28 August 2009
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Currently
Thrones, Dominations (A Lord Peter Wimsey Mystery)
By Dorothy L. Sayers, Jill Paton Walsh
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Just a quick post with a few random things.
(1) Another spin on the merry-go-round. I'm back on meds for now, at a very low dose, and supposedly a kind that has super-low side effects, and ostensibly more for anxiety than for depression. My "super-low side effects" include severe nausea and frequent dry heaves, and really bad sleep problems, even with sleeping pills. This is one of the main reasons why I hate meds. Hopefully short run, because it's more for anxiety than depression (or at least that's how my shrink is framing it), and I'm hoping my anxiety-inducing circumstances will change soon, so that there won't be as much anxiety.
(2) Big launch for one of my products coming up on Tuesday, which has meant lots of deals have been going on and now (four days before launch), people are finally panicking and asking why they aren't all signed and closed already? Um, one of them just started negotiations yesterday, but OK, I'll work over the weekend to get your launch done in time. And then I can go back to all the other products that I've been putting off, but which also have launches coming up soon. Sometimes I love my job, but sometimes I don't think my job loves me.
(3) The longer I live in California, the more I miss New York.
(4) I've never been an early riser, but when I do wake up, I was always able to just get up and get out of bed without lounging around. I often did lounge around, but for fun, not out of necessity. Lately, when I wake up (and I very rarely set an alarm, so I'm waking up naturally), it's nearly impossible to get out of bed without spending at least 20 minutes psyching myself up to do so. And then sometimes I get so exhausted that I sneak in a nap in the middle of the day. Or I'm able to get up, but the prospect of putting on my public face seems so distasteful that I work from home, instead, so that I can still get things done without having to look at people (people that I actually like) and ask them how they're doing. It's odd, sometimes, but the hardest part of working is not always the work itself. Depending on my mood, sometimes the act of steeling myself to be part of the normal world is much more daunting than the prospect of having to close too many deals in too little time.
(5) Weight and body image are funny things. I'm 5'6", and I have pretty much zero control over my weight, although it's a number I watch with mild, intermittent interest. Working out, eating healthily, not working out, eating junk, not eating, sleeping more, not sleeping, nothing really seems to influence my weight with any consistency, and yet my weight can be anywhere from 103 pounds to 124 pounds. I'm at 114 now, but I think I actually feel fatter than I did when I hit 124 a few years back. I didn't think I was any thinner than usual when I was 103, until my pants started falling off. It's sort of odd, because it makes me realize that my weight can vary by 20 pounds, and I really have no idea why it's doing so, and I don't really see that it's happening, except for when I step on a scale. Our perceptions of ourselves are so unreliable. If I can't even see what I look like physically, even with the help of mirrors, photos, and scales, how am I ever supposed to figure anything out that actually matters?
Tuesday, 25 August 2009
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Currently
Criminal Minds - Seasons 1-3
By Mandy Patinkin, Thomas Gibson, Shemar Moore, Matthew Gray Gubler, A.J. Cook
see relatedrandom thought before bed last night
At the end of the day, I'm not afraid of dying, not as a general idea.
What I am afraid of:
Dying randomly, in a time/place/manner that isn't of my own choosing and design. I think this stems from my dislike of unpredictability and lack of control. I don't want some random bus or criminal or disease to catch me unawares. I want it to be my decision, my way, whether that means the deep blue of the ocean or the deep sleep of pills.
Dying alone, in the sense of being the only person present (not in the philosophical "we are all alone in the world" sense). I'm not sure why this is, but some part of me is desperately afraid of the thought that when the time comes, there won't be someone holding my hand, someone for me to look at and love.
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